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FAQ > People don’t message me first!

Last updated: September 20, 2021

People don’t message me first!

Not everyone is able to make the first move on We’re really proud of this, but we understand it can be frustrating for people to wait for a first message that doesn’t come. Here are 3 common reasons why your match might not message first, and more importantly, why you shouldn’t take it personally if they don’t.

Here are the most likely the reasons people do not message:

Life happens

 Lots of people are balancing their dating lives with a busy work schedule, making time for friends, hobbies, and other important things. It could easily be that your match just wasn’t in a good place to start a meaningful chat this time.

They have notifications turned off

It’s common for people to turn off notifications not just from but from most apps on their phones.

So don’t assume your match actively decided not to message you. Maybe they just didn’t see you in time!

Openers are hard!

Sending the first message is hard. Some people may not know what to say, others may get anxious. Keep this in mind and stay empathetic when using

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