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Confident people have habits that can help us all get there. Are you hoping to tap into your best self and reach the heights of success? Whether it’s in career, relationships or just becoming more independent.
Despite your best efforts, self-doubt still deals you a tough hand? If so, it may feel like confidence is an uphill battle. From late night ponderings to articles and videos galore. The search for clarity on becoming confident in public speaking has been exhausting yet elusive! Its time to embrace change and unleash the potential within!
You know there is something in your life that needs to change. The problem is that you don’t know where to start to tackle future challenges.
Wonder what sets truly confident people apart? Uncover their secret habits and learn the one thing that makes all the difference: keep reading!
Where to start?
Everyone experiences a lack of confidence at some point. The key is to take small steps that add up over time. Emulating successful people and their habits can be incredibly effective in growing one’s self-confidence. Small efforts yield small victories, but even small victories build confidence and self worth.
I will share with you a collection of habits to improve your confidence. Hopefully helping you eliminate the negative mindset that is preventing you from living a better life. Each of these insights has helped me enhance some aspect of my life. I have no doubt that they will do the same for you as well.
Maybe you will follow these examples and they will help you with your self esteem or confidence. You will reach your success and confidently share your achievements with your friends and family. Thus becoming a confident person like you aim.
Confident people are optimistic
It is challenging to be confident and look cool if you are constantly anxious about events outside your control. Real confident people focus outward while false confidence people project negativity. Self confidence doesn’t come easily and there is no correct way of getting it. Maybe that’s what Marcus Aurelius meant when he said:
You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.
Instead of worrying about events beyond your control, the best solution would be to focus on your reaction to them. For instance, I’ve learned that when you’re kind and sympathetic to everyone, you don’t have to worry about other people’s negative thoughts.
So, ignore everything that is outside of your control if you want to feel more self confident as a person. Remember confident people speak assertively not authorativately. Because any feelings of anxiety about the future will vanish when you are optimistic and bold about the things you can change rather than worrying about the things you cannot.
Take pride in their appearance
It’s crucial to keep in mind that until you learn how to feel good about yourself, other people won’t see you as self confident. Start by considering some ways to take more pride in your appearance. Work out on how to incorporate them into your life if you want to change it. Showing confidence with your clothes is a must.
Whether you like it or not, the first thing someone will notice about you is your appearance. So, take pride in it and be bold. Wear confidently and be excessively bold when the situation requires it. Build complete trust in people by taking pride in oneself. Confident people are not only competent socially but know how to dress well too.
Curtis Jackson put it very well when he said:
Your opinion of yourself becomes your reality. If you have all these doubts, then no one will believe in you and everything will go wrong. If you think the opposite, the opposite will happen. It’s that simple.
Don’t judge other people
One of the most important lessons in life is that we frequently judge others because we judge ourselves. I learned to stop judging myself and other people for things outside of my control thanks to Eckhart Tolle:
The moment that judgement stops through acceptance of what it is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace.
So, if you want to improve your confidence, let go of external judgement and events outside of your control. Epictetus once stated:
There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.
Recognize the importance of body language
I believed for a very long time that body language was impossible to control. During a conversation, I was never sure what to do with my hands. I came to the realisation that the majority of communication is non-verbal.
I worked on my body language because I knew it would help me engage in more meaningful conversations with everyone I met. It gave me more assurance of myself. Body image is a normal thing among self assured people.
Start with easy techniques like remaining composed and relaxed, maintaining eye contact, and expressing interest in what the other person is saying with your facial expressions. When you make a genuine effort to improve the quality of your conversations with your body language, the other person will a more positive response.
Step out of their comfort zone
Stepping outside of your comfort zone is hard but it’s a great way to build confidence. It is easier to gain confidence when you are willing to face challenges and your fears. Truly confident people work on their self esteem first and then step up.
So if you’re looking to become more self confident, stepping outside of your comfort zone is a good start. Work hard on improving your abilities and be a positive person. Test your skills and listen to what someone more confident than you suggests. Musician, Jimmy Cox said,
Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.
So, every day, ask yourself, “What action do I need to take now to step out of my comfort zone and fulfil my potential and become more confident?